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Relatioship advice

Good morning and Happy Monday!

It was extra hard to get out of bed this morning. My alarm went off at 5:00, and I seriously considered going back to sleep. I keep my phone in the kitchen at night for a reason, and once I actually got up I had no problems! It’s those first few minutes when your eyes are open that are the hardest. That’s what Energize is for though!

Did everyone have a good weekend? I spent Friday night with some coworkers and then down at the horse races, Saturday with my S.O. and the band he played with that night, and Sunday watching TV and napping.

I have a semi-deep topic to discuss, and I want to write about it without getting too informative about my personal life. There is a lot that I discuss online, but there are specific things I keep to myself. This is going to come really close to crossing that line.

If you have followed me for a while, you may already know that I’m dating a musician. He has spent the better part of our relationship in a band. The first time we ever actually hung out together was at one of his shows, and that just became part of my life. Monday through Thursday, we would spend as much time together as possible, and he would leave for the weekend on Friday. I would occasionally drive to see him play, but I couldn’t do that every weekend.

The questions I get the most is “How do you do it?” or “You’re okay with that?” Here’s the thing: It doesn’t matter whether or not I’m okay with it. It doesn’t matter how I do it. He supports me, and I support him. If that means he’s gone the majority of the time, that’s just something I deal with. Getting upset over it would be a waste of energy. Instead, I use that time to take care of myself or hang out with my family. It doesn’t have to be complicated just because someone else tells you it should be.

Relationships work when both people support and love each other regardless of how much physical time is spent together. We made it work because we wanted it to work. I would have never told him that I didn’t want him to be gone so much or that I didn’t approve of his lifestyle. No matter how hard it was at times, I supported him. It requires trust.

Don’t let someone else’s opinion of your relationship dampen it.

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